FEAR and a Fool’s Loop.

Fear is the primary reason I find myself suffering in life. This is because when I experience fear, I have historically responded with avoidance, inaction and procrastination, which causes me anxiety and pain. Fear can cause me so much pain, yet at times, I loop around my fear instead of dealing with it, this is my fool’s loop.

To put it simply, a large portion of my pain in life comes down to one thing, which is not fear, but my reaction to fear….

My respond to fear is procrastination. When I procrastinate, I prolong the inevitable. I allow the “fear” of what I believe “it” means to stunt me, keep me stuck, a feeling of not moving forward. Drinking was one area of my life that I let fear hold me back from living the life that I knew I deserved.

My fear was that I would LOSE my fun & friends, that my past would be too painful to handle, that I would not be ME anymore.

I was living in a fool’s loop. Wanting to change, being in fear, then staying the same. Talking and not doing. Writing but not inviting. Hoping by not creating. And then finally, finally one day, I did it.

I figured out the antidote to my fool’s loop…

1. Be still so I knew what I wanted – write, meditate, talk through my desires, which was to live an alcohol-free life I loved that was full of connection and fulfillment.
2. With new clarity, write out why I want this – to live alcohol-free so I could be an amazing mother, wife and family member; to fall in love with me and live in congruency so I didn’t have to feel the shame of not living to my desired standards anymore.
3. Write out a plan of how I was going to do it – my plan was to have a Dry July, after the 4th of July, and only drink AF beverages.
4. Talk through with my coach my plans, my why, what and how…invite her to ask me even more questions to gain even more clarity.
5. Take action towards my goal – I removed alcohol from the house, bought alternative AF drinks, told my family so they would support me (my husband and I drank together), and made a counter so I could cross my AF days off.

And So It Is! I broke out of my fool’s loop to accomplish Dry July!

I had a lot of pain leading up to me finally taking massive action. Pain can be a powerful mover, if it is painful enough. Otherwise, a lot of times we accept the pain as the truth. To move through pain, we need to create and invite clarity, empowering beliefs, have a good plan, a supportive tribe and take massive action for long term, sustainable change.

Because of my journey, I now help profession women design and alcohol free life the love, that is full of connection and fulfillment, as their coach!

If you are ready to find your own clarity, let go of the past, and design a life you love, contact me today!